As a visually impaired mommy, finding shows on Netflix can be difficult. I usually try to put on a VeggieTales or Magic School Bus episode. The only problem is, I only put on the TV when my son is clinging and sitting on my lap and I cannot see the menu from the couch (actually to see the menu at all I have to be standing about a foot away from the TV). Because of this, it can be very hard to choose. As a result, we have been witness to a wide variety of cartoons, and as a mom this is quite distressing because not all cartoons can be endured by an adult!
I know this probably doesn’t sound like a hardship, but in our Netflix driven society, well you know. But yesterday, I had a victory! I played Netflix roulette and won a Magic School Bus episode! Score 1 team mommy.
These are just some musings about unique situations my husband and I find ourselves in because of my vision. Some are funny, some are weird, and some are sad, but they all make our marriage what it is. This is the first one, so I’m going to go with what we consider funny.
So, when we were engaged, my husband was working in a restaurant. He was discussing our wedding and my vision came up. Like most people, she was surprised and asked him many questions. At the end of the conversation, she looked at him, and in the sincerest way imaginable said, “You are such a good person! God is going to bless you for marrying her.” He didn’t know what to say, so he just thanked her and went about working.
Later that night, he told me and we both just burst out laughing. Now, you should probably understand that we are both Christians and believe in God—we even met in church! So, it wasn’t the fact that she thought my husband would be blessed or that for getting married he would be blessed. But, it felt like she thought he was marrying me for charity. We really don’t think she was trying to be negative in any way towards us or our relationship. It’s just an awkward comment.
Right now, I am smiling just thinking about it. It has been a few years, but we still bring it up from time to time. Like when my husband must do a chore because I cannot due to my vision I’ll say sarcastically, “Feeling really blessed now aren’t you?!?!” And he usually turns to me and sweetly says, “I am blessed to be married to you every day my love.” I know, sickeningly sweet, but I love it.
So, being a mom no matter what is difficult and I would never try to compare my struggles being a mom with ANYONE. I just want to provide insight into what it is like being a mom with a vision problem. And I know that every visually impaired mom is different, so just my disclaimer.
I have a 13-month old little boy and he is a little ball of energy. He isn’t walking quiet yet, but my husband and I are convinced that he could probably climb to our roof if there were enough toys he could stack up. And he tries to turn everything into a musical instrument. Just to give you a little background and get a mom brag in!
There are many things I am learning about my vision now that I am a mom. And I know from hanging out with other moms, that there are things I deal with that they don’t have to, but honestly there are much more similarities then I thought there would be. Like, I was worried that because I can’t see everything on the floor, my son would get things in his mouth I couldn’t see. Come to find out, that is a common worry among all moms. And my son is now used to me taking things out of his hands and then giving them back because 9 times out of 10, it’s safe for him. He also knows that if mommy is sticking her finger in his mouth, staying calm makes it go faster and she will either find nothing or something that is okay to be in his mouth—I think twice it was something that could hurt him.
It just goes to show that people are more similar than they are different. And since this is mommy Monday, I will use a quote from my son’s favorite TV show, Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood “In some ways we are different, but in so many ways we are the same.